CHAPTER 2:

Unconditional Conditions

 

At this time I challenge you all to look beyond your conditional love and be more open minded, learning from your flaws, your mate’s flaws, the state of your relationship and your current situation. Seek to benefit in times of adversity, turn your obstacles into opportunities. Things aren’t always what they appear to be. Just because a situation takes a turn for the worst, doesn’t mean nothing good can come from it, it just takes for us to be open minded and for our love to be unconditional.

 

How do we determine who we should love unconditionally? My answer will always be “We don’t choose who we love, love just happens.”  It’s a growing feeling and emotion which transforms into a devotion and a dedication to someone, but my belief is often one companion loves the other more then they love them. I advise us all to reciprocate our love and take the initiative to be loving, kind, romantic, exciting and fun. If your love isn’t reciprocated, then maybe you should make some terms and conditions, and rethink your relationship entirely. Most importantly, you should communicate with your mate about your thoughts, their actions and exactly both of your wants and desires, within your relationship and outside of it. Maybe you want to discuss boundaries and expectations of one another. Your opinion should matter equally to your mates and so should your decisions. Until your companion start taken the steps to fully reciprocate your love, you should humble yourself and don’t be so zealous to profess and show your love. In most relationships there’s always a favor for a favor.

 

Favor for a Favor:  It’s innate to do a favor for a friend or companion if you’re able to. Then there are those people who do favors for every and anyone, and seek nothing in return, but who has time for that? Are you the type to pull over for a hitch hiker and allow them to enter your vehicle? Then give you directions to where they’re going, while allowing them to persuade you to go off your path? Only to assure that they make it to their destination safely? (Those who pick up hitch hikers aren’t only killed in movies, they often very well die in real life) If you are this concerned about others some people will call you gullible or naive but maybe you’re just a very nice person. Though there are very nice people in this world, no one wants to be used, unless they’re receiving something in return.

 

Does your spouse love you more than you love them? Are they showering you with gifts, affection, romantic dates and vacations, but you don’t give back anything in return? If you fit this criteria, please be aware that sooner or later, your companion will eventually become tired of doing all the giving. Even if you can’t afford to purchase them gifts, you should return the favor by doing kind gestures and showing your appreciation. That is if you would like the attention, gifts, vacations and romantic dates to keep coming. In a prior relationship, my female companion was a full time student attending Brooklyn College. She worked part time, and couldn’t afford rent so I paid for her to live in a room inside a three family home in Flatbush Brooklyn. I also clothed and fed her, taking care of her as if she was mine, in which she was. Along with providing her with basic means of day to day living, I showered her with gifts and took her to exciting and entertaining places on the weekends. Though she couldn’t afford to repay me, she would cook meals for me daily and perform long, soothing full body massages on me every evening, followed by amazing sexual intercourse then oral sex. After I ejaculated, she would suck my testicles while humming, causing a vibration sensation which would place me in a state of tranquility and sexual gratification. Though I may have spent a few thousand dollars a month on Janice, her seductive, sexual, soothing stimulation was priceless. For those of you that may think that what I’ve just described is a form of prostitution, then I’ll give you another scenario where you can show your appreciation without providing sexual favors in return.

 

While with my ex-wife, I was having an affair with a woman who was a registered nurse that worked full time at Methodist Hospital and as always, I showered her with gifts, romance and expensive trips. Initially, I didn’t tell her that I was married or that I was a drug dealer but by our fourth date, the chemistry between us was so effortless and magical, that I couldn’t stand gazing into her eyes while concealing the truth. After an exciting day of horse back riding and jet skiing, we ended the night drinking while walking on Coney Island boardwalk, where I divulged that I was unhappily married. She gazed into my eyes and uttered “I’m disappointed that you’re just telling me this but I appreciate you telling me the truth.” She then placed her hand against my face, then passionately kissed me. 

 

The following day, she invited me to a karaoke lounge but she didn’t sing, she wrote a song dedicated about our relationship titled “I never want us to end” which I enjoyed and for the first time learned that Janice had a voice which can only be described as a gift from above. 

 

Subsequently I received a small package with a red bow wrapped around it, with only a return address labeled Misses. Inside was a DVD. Intrigued! I immediately slid it into my DVD player and pressed play. A blank screen appeared, within seconds, large, red script letters rolled up the screen that read “To my wonderful man, thanks for showing me what life is about. Though I never been in love, I think it best to describe the feelings that I feel for you” followed by several pictures of Janice and I hugging, holding hands, kissing or just out and about enjoying the moment. I realized that over those ten months of dating, we went out often and took a lot of pictures together and though she knew I was married, she wanted these special experiences to continue.

 

The manufacturing of this DVD couldn’t have been more than $50 but the overwhelming feeling that came over me as I watched Janice and I living and enjoying life through this phenomenal art work was priceless and more meaningful then the money I’ve spent on her over these prior months. The thought that Janice put into this small gift is what counted the most and the fact that she wanted these memories to play out like her dream movie is what made me feel special. To this day, if I hear the song “Have You Ever” recorded by Brandy, I think of Janice and her DVD. Even if you’re on a budget, you can be creative when it comes to showing your appreciation for your mate, in small ways or in large but when the sun sets, it’s really the thought that counts. Via email reply, how many of you like to be seduced? Pleasured and sexually stimulated until you just can’t endure anymore? Now, how many of you return these same sexual pleasures that have been bestowed upon you? When it comes to sex, it would be a false statement to say that we are all created equal but I will say this, with sex, we all need to be creative!

 

Sexual favors should definitely be returned, you should want to please your mate the same, or even better than how they pleased you. In every relationship, it should be a give and take situation, especially when it comes to sex. Even in the bible it states “Do on to others, as you would want done to you” meaning, if you like to receive oral sex, then you ultimately have to give oral sex. The more you give, the more you shall receive. If you don’t know how to perform oral sex, I’ll prepare a video designed specifically to teach, yes you guessed it, for both women and men. Email over your information! alltheanswers1000@gmail.com

 

“If I cook for us, the least you can do is wash the dishes” When your companion invites you over for dinner, are you the type to eat the meal provided, sip some wine or your favorite alcoholic beverage then relax on the couch with your feet up? Without even offering to clear the table or wash the dishes? If so, you should consider offering a hand in the clean up process. Even if you don’t want to because your mate will probably say, “No babe, I got this. I’m serving you this evening, just go relax, find something to watch on TV while I clean up”.  A kind gesture of offering to do the dishes is a sign of appreciation to your companion, for taking the time out and putting the effort into preparing your delicious, intimate dinner. These small offerings are often overlooked and go unasked but these same small offerings, allow your...